You may have always struggled with your confidence, or perhaps you’re finding yourself less confident than you used to be.
It’s very easy to have your confidence knocked as a man, whether you’re struggling on the dating scene, lacking in sexual confidence, struggling to balance all of society’s expectations of you, or simply unsure which direction you’re taking in life.
Lacking confidence can disrupt your everyday mood and routine, which is why it’s important to look for ways you can rebuild your confidence – as well as ensure you don’t ignore any signs that your self-esteem has taken a hit, too.
Here are 5 ways you can look to regain your confidence.
1. Set Work and Life Goals
Lack of self-confidence can often come because of feeling unsure or lost on the path you’re taking. If you haven’t outlined any clear goals for your work or life, whether these are large or small, you may end up feeling disheartened or lacking the self-esteem needed to propel you forward. Setting goals is a great way to have something to focus on and challenge yourself – and when you reap the rewards of actually achieving goals you’ve set for yourself, this can give your self-confidence a massive boost.
2. Take Care Of Your Appearance
Your personal style (as well as your personal hygiene) can make a dramatic difference in the way you feel. If you take the time to discover your own personal style to ensure you wear clothes you feel comfortable in, then what you wear on a daily basis will give you confidence. Clothes that don’t fit correctly or aren’t to your personal taste can easily have you feeling uncomfortable.
On top of that, personal hygiene is a must if you want to feel more confident. Keeping clean, taking care of your skin, and keeping on top of your hair styling can all work wonders for feeling more confident.
3. Get Your Health in Check
Your physical health can have a negative impact on not only the way you feel about how you’re functioning but also on the way you look. There are many health issues men may come up against, whether it’s lack of sexual libido, struggling with being overweight, or mental health challenges. It’s imperative to stay on top of your health – and health checks – so that you can feel confident in your own body and lifestyle.
For many common health problems, there are always solutions, so it’s important to talk about them. You can find TRT therapy for testosterone deficiency, you can set physical weight goals and get advice from a personal trainer, or you can speak to a counsellor to focus on and improve your mental health. Help is always available.
4. Spend Time Around the Right People
It’s amazing how your confidence can be impacted by those around you. A lot of the time, you may find that the changes which need to be made are outward and not inward. Spending time around the right people is crucial to a positive mindset and the right levels of confidence. This can apply to both colleagues and a personal group of friends.
It’s much harder to control the people you need to be around in a work setting, as you have no control over who your colleagues might be. However, to give yourself the best chance, setting work goals and aiming for a job you enjoy will make it more likely you will be around like-minded people who share your goals.
For your personal relationships, it’s important to look out for any signs of toxic friendships. If you only spend time with people who drag you down or who make you feel uncomfortable, this is going to result in your self-confidence taking a hit. With friends, you should always be able to feel relaxed and be able to share your hopes and dreams with those you love. So be sure to not only eliminate any toxic relationships you might have but look out for exciting and new opportunities to make friends with like-minded individuals. This could be through a hobby group for DIY enthusiasts for example, or a place you like to hang out.
5. Be Sensible with Social Media
There is so much pressure in this society for people of all genders to be a certain way. For men, you may come up against ‘the perfect gym body’ or even be persuaded that toxic masculinity is a good thing (it’s not). Spending too much time on social media, or online in general, may see you up against certain expectations of men that may result in you lacking confidence if you don’t look or act a certain way.
It’s important to look for people who inspire you or to make sure that you’re following the right kind of people on social media. There’s no point looking at profiles for gym freaks if you’re not someone who wants a toned physique and then made to feel bad about it anyway.
Be yourself, and follow those people with the same aspirations, personalities, and looks that you aspire to.